What Are Friends For

Brittany Snow & Jaspre Guest: Happy Friendsgiving! Love, September Letters

November 25, 2020 Gabrielle Ruiz & Pallavi Sastry Season 2 Episode 26
What Are Friends For
Brittany Snow & Jaspre Guest: Happy Friendsgiving! Love, September Letters
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What Are Friends For
Brittany Snow & Jaspre Guest: Happy Friendsgiving! Love, September Letters
Nov 25, 2020 Season 2 Episode 26
Gabrielle Ruiz & Pallavi Sastry

GxP are joined by fellow friends-turned-business partners, Brittany Snow (Pitch Perfect franchise) and Jaspre Guest, to celebrate their new passion project, September Letters - a mental health awareness and letter writing experience. This episode and conversation is uplifting, hopeful, vulnerable, and filled with gratitude. Just in time for Friendsgiving. Brittany also reveals that she is...wait for it...a Powdered Donut #lightningWAFF Anyone can write a September Letter by visiting septemberletters.com. Follow September Letters on instagram @septemberletters

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GxP are joined by fellow friends-turned-business partners, Brittany Snow (Pitch Perfect franchise) and Jaspre Guest, to celebrate their new passion project, September Letters - a mental health awareness and letter writing experience. This episode and conversation is uplifting, hopeful, vulnerable, and filled with gratitude. Just in time for Friendsgiving. Brittany also reveals that she is...wait for it...a Powdered Donut #lightningWAFF Anyone can write a September Letter by visiting septemberletters.com. Follow September Letters on instagram @septemberletters

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Gabrielle Ruiz:

No really What are friends for? Friends are for gratitude friends are for Thanksgiving happy into the fall autumnal season I am even wearing autumnal colors for the mood and for the lewk of Thanksgiving week. I am Gabrielle Ruiz.

Pallavi Sastry:

I'm Pallavi Sastry and you definitely thought I had on the lewk but see the way that I get into my Thanksgiving spirit is I just eat some pie. You know what I mean? Just like eat some pie, get in the mood, be grateful.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

But like I'm the baker of the group. Do you actually you don't like baking?

Pallavi Sastry:

I don't bake. I eat other people's baking though.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

It's like, I totally understand that is the thing. I eat all your food. You eat all my baking, but I don't make for you because you're vegan. And I use real butter. So that's right, totally fine. It's totally fine. I'll just buy those your favorite vegan doughnuts. And I'll just send them to you.

Pallavi Sastry:

I'm all about that. I mean, we're still in quarantine as we're recording this. So you know, we have to do those, those delivery apps as we as we please.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Yeah, yeah. And we're also winding down our season of what friends for this is our final guest for an episode. And we're so excited that you guys are listening, and being able to be a part of it. Because this is a very special duo that's doing a having a wonderful cause and a call to action for people to lean into mental health awareness and just reach out in this. Like with what our friends for in this post in this quarantine world?

Pallavi Sastry:

Yes, for sure. And before we bring them out, we do want to remind all of you listeners, we're so grateful for all the reviews, the subscriptions, the the ratings, they really do, like make all the difference. It's just like I say it every time. It's like an Instagram algorithm, every review that goes up onto the show. That means the show gets more visible.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Get as many of those rythms. Thank you so much, because they really, really help. We are recording this in October. What is it? Are we in the 14th October 14, this is coming out during Thanksgiving week. And we started our Instagram with like 200 followers, and we're at 1000. And it's because of you guys and your support, and your reviews and your ratings. And we're just so hashtag grateful that we're at the end of this season. And also just a reminder, our next live show is with the crazy ex girlfriend girl group forever. donalyn Chaplin, Bella Laval and Rachel bloom are going to hang out on my birthday and I'm super excited. This is the little handy hint. I can't wait to have to share a really big announcement.

Pallavi Sastry:

Oh, that's I had to think about it. I already know what it is. But I was like What's that? Oh wait 1901 what it is.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

So enough with the commercials for what our friends for because now let's lean into gratitude. Let's lean into Thanksgiving with our guest for an intro Pallavi take it away.

Pallavi Sastry:

Yes. Today we have a lovely duo. The first is Jaspre guests. She's the founder and CEO of noise 784 pr and branding agency and happy noise a good vibes brand. I love that. And ours yes fair Very much so. And then next we have actor director and activists in the mental health space space for the last decade. Miss Brittany snow welcome to the program ladies.

Brittany Snow:

Thanks!

Jaspre Guest:

So excited.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Um, I love that you're Fun fact Brittany of your life as you love True Crime podcasting.

Brittany Snow:

I spaced out i was i don't know what i like I don't know what I do. But I that's what that that is a huge part of my life. Like some rerason it's just my go to thing whenever there's like a silence in my life. I put on a true crime podcast and I try to solve it before they do.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

But can you like fall asleep to it? Or is it a certain time of the day? Because when it comes to like True Crime TV, Philip, my husband loves to watch it but like I can't listen to when I fall asleep because I start dreaming it. You know what I mean?

Brittany Snow:

That happened to us the other day, we watched one on Netflix like the really terrifying one about the the guy with the housewife and oh, I mean, Chris something. And I fell asleep through it. And then I started dreaming about them. And so I don't do that.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Yeah, don't do that.

Pallavi Sastry:

Yes, you're more brave than I I even I watched the trailer and I like nope, not for me.

Brittany Snow:

I had a visceral response to it like it. I found I finally found out what happened The next morning, and I was like rocking back and forth crying and Tyler. My husband was like hugging me. He was like it's okay. And I was like it's not okay

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Not okay though

Pallavi Sastry:

Joey was more my speed though. She's all about the hot sauce is her Fun fact.

Jaspre Guest:

Right? I don't know. Everybody knows everything about me. But I felt like I'm my fiance with hot sauce in my bag. But it's close to that.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

I have to say that's one of my favorite scenes from Selena where they go and have the pizza and then he's like, he's like, Listen, I love hot sauce and he's like, start spinning. I had a moment with that. I had a moment Just like that I'm a South text and as well Selena was Princess Diana in our in our life. And I made my boyfriend in high school eat jalapenos like that, and he like cried. Fond memory. It's a fun memory. I'm so proud of it.

Pallavi Sastry:

But it's awesome. But anyway, we want to talk about September letters. But before we really get into the meatiness of it, we want to start our first segment

Singing:

Instafriends or Reality Yeah.

Pallavi Sastry:

Which is where we go into the Instagram account, which this time we're doing September letters, which is a newly launched and we'll let you guys talk about about we we chose. And usually we choose one post, yeah, we choose one post. But we decided just the entire page, the entire feed this time, because it kind of it there's really no way to narrow in on one thing that is very thought provoking or emotional. We just love the whole thing. Each thing we had, each time we looked at a different post, we're like, Oh, I love that. Oh, I love this because of this. And I love this because of that. So we just chose the whole feed. So you guys, you have to go follow September letters on Instagram.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

It's literally September letters. Like, it's so easy and unavoidable. You'll find it It's beautiful. And it's so well curated and thought through when did you all launch September letters?

Brittany Snow:

We just actually launched Believe it or not in September.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Oh, I was hoping so. Yeah,

Brittany Snow:

we could have watched it earlier. But we both were like that would be ridiculous. We need to obviously launch in September. But we've been working on this for a year, a little bit more than a year. And you know, it's such an idea and something that we were playing around with for so long. But as you guys I'm sure know, too. So many things have to fit together. And there's so much more work involved. So it took about a year for it all to happen. And the Instagram, and the branding and the logos, and all of that stuff was a lot more intricate than I originally thought was going to happen.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Yeah, I mean, especially in this virtual world when you were planning a wonderful program organization and a call to action. What evolved when March when mid March hit, Jaspre,

Jaspre Guest:

you know what's interesting, and what's really cool to work alongside Brittany, and I've known Brittany a long time is that I would like to say not a lot evolved because because we became in a suddenly in a pandemic, you know, and I think people think that that is a response to the environment that we're in. But in actuality it's not. And to watch Brittany like kind of creative direct, like the branding, the color, all the vibe is her like she has something very clear in her head that she wanted to execute. And it was really inspiring to be alongside that and help bring that to fruition. So I think a lot of people feel like that we do this because of the pandemic. But I mean, Brittany, would you agree, I don't really think anything changed, except we were like people need this even more now more people need it than just a subset of a group.

Pallavi Sastry:

Mm hmm. For sure. And we can totally relate to that. Because we had talked about launching the show together at the at the end of last year. That was the first time Gabrielle and I had a conversation and then you know, top of the year comes around and things sort of back your plans up a little bit in general, as the New York tends to do. And then the pivot happened in March. And we were like, no, this is actually the perfect time like what we were saying it's like, it's not a response to that thing. It's just more of a time to lean into the why of why people need to connect. And what's awesome for us to have you on is like you guys kind of go towards the written medium. And we're all about like, hey, call your people, FaceTime your people, like do what you need to do in order to connect because, you know, staying staying isolated is part of the issue of the epidemic of mental health. You know,

Gabrielle Ruiz:

do you agree with Jaspre that there hasn't been a lot of change in your preparation for September letters,

Brittany Snow:

the preparation was pretty much the same, the same, I feel like our focus shifted, because we knew that this was such a pivotal time for for us personally, because we had the time to do it. And really, we understood that there was a need for it. But I also think in the same way that we always knew this was going to be something that people might gravitate towards and something personally for us we wanted to do. But the only thing I think that's changed is people are more aware of their mental health right now because there's so much solidarity in this because we're all going through it and so many people are like, Oh, you're dealing with the same thing. So am I looking for outlets. So a lot more people I think are searching for different ways. And that has been nice to see that unity and and hopefully can be a part of that.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

There's definitely time to think right now. Especially this time to connect with not so much just everything around you and what stimulates you immediately and then you can escape on your phone. We all are isolated mentally, emotionally. We have to reach out in a very different way. I'm very grateful for our podcasts what our friends for is because Pallavi and I are best friends. But you know, before we started this podcast and we've connected more than ever, and we've been able to quaran-team together and still stay virtually connected, but also like have some get togethers that are not about work we would vacation together.

Pallavi Sastry:

Yeah, we talk to each other every day, but we still vacation together, which is got away together. The next thing I'm about to say, which makes this even funnier is like so we wrote September letters, and we submitted them over the weekend.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

For all our Patreon subscribers, everyone can see Brittany's face, she looks so happy.

Brittany Snow:

I will actually do it. You know, Sony are like, Oh, yeah, I'm gonna read a letter and then they don't because did and

Pallavi Sastry:

no, we definitely wrote them. And I am one of those people that like, you know, I like to sort of corral with people. And like, you know, and so I wrote mine, and I sent it to Gabrielle. I was like, Here's mine, you know, I wanted to share it with her. And she was like, I'm not gonna show you mine. I was like, oh, but there's like room for all of that. Right? So like, I would love to hear from you on like, you know, obviously, there's anonymous letters that are sent in and there are also people that you know, choose to share their story openly. And I'm not saying that I think Gabrielle you're not your you didn't send yours in anonymously. No regrets, no regrets. But it's funny that like, you know, when it comes to the written medium, I feel like it evokes a certain emotional connection that's very different from like, the face to face thing. And some people thrive in the written versus what we're doing right now. Right, which is what our show is all about.

Brittany Snow:

Definitely, I think that what we wanted to try to bring back and hope hoping that we're bringing back is that medium where you can write and get out your feelings, it's so therapeutic and healthy to write out your thoughts because you start realizing things that you didn't even know you were feeling or going through, but also just that, that medium and that connectivity with with yourself but also to help someone else. It's also said that therapeutic and I think in terms of today, we get so bogged down with being on our phone and everything being so immediate, we don't take this self care, the time that it takes to write something out for yourself, or for therapeutic purposes. And so whether or not it's anonymous, or it's just somebody else, or it's reaching out for help, or if it's a letter to someone else, specifically, I think it's just as helpful helpful for the reader as it is for the writer. And so we give that up to to whoever if you want to be anonymous, you want to put your name but we never use last names or anything like that.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

I didn't I did love your your note Brittany on the website September letters of how this letter that moved you you had an what you say your back pocket for a very long time. And I went to the not sharing to see if it falls in Pallavi's lap one day idea because I think bringing back the message in a bottle. Feeling that when you when you're inspired by a quote, you're inspired by a movie that makes you cry and actually initiate something that you've been dealing with or you have that conversation, you see a play, Pallavi had a very provoking moment in her life with the play that moved her and changed her life that we talked about in the show. I love that September letters does that with letter writing and mental health awareness. It's very important. Mm hmm.

Brittany Snow:

Message in a Bottle. We're going to use that.

Jaspre Guest:

Yeah, taking it.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

It's like virtual message bottle. I mean, it really is. That's how I felt when I went and just, I am not the letter writer. I am not I was never the kid journalist. I think I tried writing a journal once at 12. And I was like, nah, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go to cheerleading practice. And so my writing is like to do lists like max to do list right? And then when I went on to September letters, my experience on September letters comm was just rabbit hole exploring on a beautiful platform that isn't what show or what gig is someone doing next? And what am I missing out on? or What am I not doing? It's just you get to explore that. So I loved that I was able to be a part of that.

Pallavi Sastry:

Mm hmm. And Jaspre, how did I know you guys mentioned before we we came online that you are you're partnering with another organization and I wanted to hear the backstory of how that came about and give you guys a chance to talk about that that relationship.

Jaspre Guest:

So we're an official program partner of bring change to mind which is founded by Glenn Close and you know, Brittany, again, had a very clear vision that she wanted to be part of a charity and we spent a long time actually really combing through all the options talking to so many different people and we just felt that bring change to mind really focuses on the storytelling narrative aspect of mental health and that aligned Obviously, so well with letters. And so it's been a really exciting partnership to be part of that and part of something even larger. And, you know, they want to be part of this program right away. And it was like our first call Brittany and I were like, Oh, it's such a good feeling. And they were like, We have such a good feeling too. And that's really nice. When you don't really have to prove anything, you're just sharing your concept. So it's a big part of, you know, what we do? bring change to mind and and they're like, an excellent partner. And it's nice to feel like a family.

Pallavi Sastry:

And so what's the what's the big what I call the big hairy dream, the big hairy dream for this project? Where Where do you see it going? What's, what's the pie in the sky, that you hope that of the impact and what you where you hope to grow it?

Brittany Snow:

Well, like you were saying, I'm not everybody is a letter writer or a journaler. I love journaling. But my journals are not like, today, I felt, you know, it's like usual doodles and scrambles, and it doesn't make any sense. And what what we've always kind of thought Jaspre and I is that we want this to be a medium where it's not necessarily writing out letters and having that daunting task of journaling and feeling like you have to journal or being bogged down. But it can be in any sort of format that you want to express yourself, we want it to be one day, a place where there's art and music, and Jaspre had a great idea for living letters. So we want to one day bring you know, videographers and artists to come around and start to create their letters of their life and share experiences in a in a format that can tell a story like in a music video, or, you know, an acting piece or whatever you would like. And so we have a pie in the sky image where you can go to the website and see all sorts of different I'm quoting letter, I keep forgetting that they don't know what that I'm quoting,

Gabrielle Ruiz:

oh, our Patreon subscribers can see you quote, don't remember in eight years, a bunch of years. That is a slay pie in the sky.

Brittany Snow:

It's quite, it's a pretty big apple pie up there. But um, I feel like it's doable. Because right now we have a really nice foundation of this is what really helps people in terms of making sure that they feel not alone is recognizing their story and someone else's words, and realizing that regardless of your job, or what you look like or where you came from, we all have a similar story in terms of mental health and struggles that we've gone through. And that that makes us more united instead of instead of different. And that's why our website right now is so based on letters and unique stories, but it's not so much about what you can see, it's what you can read.

Pallavi Sastry:

Yeah, I mean, I will say like, it was very therapeutic for me to write my letter, you know, it was Gabrielle alluded to it earlier. But one of the proudest moments I think, that both of us have had on our show this this season is that I went public with my story of childhood sexual assault earlier this season. And so I took that time writing that letter to actually reflect on the experience of talking about it publicly, not actually coming out, but like reflecting on do I feel, okay, now that this is out there, you know, like more talking to myself and talking about, like, all the two ends, being able to expand on the tools that I used in order to get to that place. So it was a very therapeutic experience. And it's better for me to, you know, and I think a lot of people might relate, it's like, it's a very organized way of putting your feelings on paper, right? Like you're not put on the spot, you don't have to like, say something perfectly in the moment. It's just very reflective in that way. So I think so thank you for that. So that was like, that was a great little impetus for me to be able to do that. So I hope that people go on and write letters and read them and share them.

Brittany Snow:

That's so beautiful that you wrote about that. Thank you. Thank you, thank

Gabrielle Ruiz:

you. Yeah, thank you for the platform for people to feel like they can.

Brittany Snow:

And that's one of the things that we want to to also put out there too is that I think as and you guys know, as well, in terms of, of people taking your word sometimes and making them sound a certain way, or you can do an interview for someplace and then they can change what you wanted to put out there. We don't change anyone's words, not even a grammatical error. You know, sometimes I'll read something and I'm like, I misspelled it, but I'm not gonna change. So we don't change anything about anyone's story because we feel like it's a part of who they are. So

Gabrielle Ruiz:

have you felt um, have you felt impacted by a letter you've read yet? for you personally, ladies?

Jaspre Guest:

I mean, every day is every day. I mean, I think, you know, we joke about this, but literally no one knew we were really doing this except like a handful of people and our dogs, you know, obviously but actually putting it out into the world and Seeing, I don't know if I was naive, or I don't know what I thought, but I thought, I hope we get like five letters, you know, and we've received like hundreds and hundreds of letters and Brittany and I are like, Oh my god, did you read this? Did you read that, and it's, it moves us to tears. And you know, the other day a client called me and she's like, I just want you to know, I literally read every single letter on September letters, and it helped me so much. And I was like, and we are getting that feedback consistently. And, you know, it sounds like a little bit, you know, Kumbaya, but Britney, and I really just want to help and the fact that we're getting the feedback that we are helping makes it so worthwhile, and kind of, you know, amazing. And I could go on and on about all the letters that have affected me. But that's what I think is so amazing, is that there's something for everyone. And that's what we've tried to do with the categories is make something relatable to ev to every single person.

Pallavi Sastry:

Mm hmm. And it's emptying your cup, right? I mean, it was like, what's lovely about the written medium also is like, there's no room for somebody to have a rebuttal.

Brittany Snow:

And that's what's been so crazy is that we actually have the platform ability where people can write comments. And I think it's because of the vulnerability of sharing your story, I was really waiting for someone to be like to say something negative, or, or God forbid, you know, something stupid to somebody about their story, but not one person has done that. And it's beautiful to see everyone is so supportive from all different backgrounds, all different stories. And I don't know why I was naive to think perhaps that there would be some people saying, or at least trying to create a narrative about their views and what people should do, but no one has no one has done that. I mean, knock on wood, no one will. But it's really beautiful, beautiful to see the connection that people have as well. There's so many people who comment on each other's letters saying, I went through that too, I didn't know that you, you know, someone went through that as well. It makes me feel so much better. I thought I was alone. And that's the community that we wanted to create, which was really our main goal.

Pallavi Sastry:

And how has both of your friendship changed as you're going through this whole building, you kind of birthing a child together in a way you know what I mean

Brittany Snow:

it was like more than once those very cooked baby.

Jaspre Guest:

I mean, I think, you know, I'm in New York Britney's in LA and there's a time difference, there's a location difference, there's like so many differences, but I think, you know, we prove that you don't have to, you can have a long distance friend. And it's been really, you know, she's been there for, for life moments for me in the last, you know, few months in this crazy environment. And so it's been, I think, when you have a mutual respect level for each other, that's what that's what births the best friendship, because you have the foundation of respect. And I think that we both have that for each other, which is why you know, we we have been really good business partners and and it's been a really different experience for me to have and, and refreshing at the same time and also be like, Wow, she's also my friend, this is such a cool like intersection of two things happening.

Brittany Snow:

It's definitely also and I'm sure you guys get this too. There's, there's polar opposites in terms of what we're good at. I am not good at emails or sounding intelligent in emails, my emails go a little bit something like, yeah, okay, like, sure, oh, my God, smiley face, yay, or whatever. And hers are like very, you know, intelligent and to the point, and I'm like, we do the emails, I'll do the phone, you know. And so it's nice to kind of make sure that we separate our work workload, because we realize that we both have so many strengths and opposite areas. And I think that's what friendships are sometimes is picking up each other's slack and knowing that you're there for each other in terms of what you're good at and letting you shine in that way. And know what I'm good at

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Oh 100% I hate Google Docs and Pallavi swears she promises to herself, I think by the end of 2020 that she will somehow convert me and it's just not gonna happen.

Brittany Snow:

800 Google Docs and she wasn't Did you open up the Google Doc? I was like, No, I did not because

Gabrielle Ruiz:

anything in there?

Pallavi Sastry:

Yeah. All right. We're not gonna have this fight right now. Because the Google Doc so the reason why the show is still alive.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Here's my favorite part, though, about this conversation that gets her fired up. And she thinks it's an argument. It's not

Jaspre Guest:

going to if I could not use them, it would be great. But you know, like, where do you put stuff

Gabrielle Ruiz:

you got to put in the Google Docs. That's where, by the way, this is not an ad for Google Docs.

Pallavi Sastry:

But it could be so where's the money at Google Docs?

Gabrielle Ruiz:

You'd have a very funny ad for you guys. Just put it out there. Gabrielle Can you believe it is the end of 2020 and it's been a doozy, Pallavi ups and downs and then even more downs but we at What are friends for like to take all of those feelings and turn them into meaningful conversations that focus on growth, love and joy.

Pallavi Sastry:

That's right and the most joyful thing we look forward to every month are our live shows on Patreon Hey, Patreon

Gabrielle Ruiz:

our monthly live shows are exclusively available on four 1234 different tiers on our Patreon page, and those tiers start as low as $2 a month

Pallavi Sastry:

and the content and the perks just keep getting better with each tier. But this guest lineup for the rest of 2020 is a fierce omg fierce.com we've got wicked's longest running Elphaba, Jackie burns in October, Emmy Award nominee Janet Varney in November and a grand finale in December with my OG hashtag girl group fo Eva squad from crazy ex girlfriend. That's right. Donna Lynn Chaplin, Vela Lavelle, and Rachel bloom will join us for my birthday group hang. I am so lit already. It's gonna be so much fun. So if you guys want to get in on the action, visit www.patreon.com slash WAFF podcast. That's W A F F podcast between the vodcasts the podcasts and the live shows there are just about a bajillion ways for you to get a dose of WAFF.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Yeah, and the sooner you join, the sooner you can watch because you not only get to join the live shows live, they're also available for you to watch forever. So if you miss it binge it later slay

Pallavi Sastry:

once again all that action is @www.patreon.com slash WAFF podcast. We are so grateful to you WAFF fam for keeping the show going. couldn't do it without you.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Now back to WAFF September letters.com, September letters on Instagram, go check it out. Leave Leave a letter, Jaspre Brittany, thank you for talking about September letters we Pallavi and I was completely moved by visiting it experiencing it looking it up. And we hope everyone else does the same. So with that, is there any call to action that you would like to leave with our listeners specially it being Thanksgiving week leading into Giving Tuesday?

Brittany Snow:

I think for us it's really important. And I think, especially for Thanksgiving is the act of giving back in an emotional way. I think it is so helpful when people share their story and their truth. And it does make you feel so much better. Even if you want to be anonymous taking that time to to write a letter. Sometimes we've even gotten letters that are like three sentence poems, or, or gratitude lists. I think probably a great call to action for this time would be to go on September letters and write a gratitude list because then you'll find something that you know you're grateful for. And maybe someone else will recognize that same thing as well.

Pallavi Sastry:

Love that was the last part of this. We usually do our very last segment.

Singing:

Lightning WAFF.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

How long is your longest friendship?

Jaspre Guest:

Oh my god, I don't I don't even know. I have no answer. I don't know. You know, I was a kid. This is a too long of an answer. But I grew up in LA and New York. So I bounced back and forth. So I really don't really know.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Great answer.

Jaspre Guest:

I'm sorry.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

That's a great answer.

Brittany Snow:

My little friend. She was my maid of honor in my wedding. She and I my mom and her mom met in Lamaze class. So we became friends in each other's mom. And yeah, she's been my best friend ever since she was like the bad one. I was the good one growing up.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

love it.

Brittany Snow:

And now she's the good one, actually.

Pallavi Sastry:

Alright, so second question is, what is your go to way to stay in touch?

Brittany Snow:

Um, you know what I've discovered lately, which I never have done before, but it's only been in the past six months. I really like leaving people voice notes instead of texting them because I feel like a story is so much funnier, more funny. Like when you're telling it over voice note then be texting it because it doesn't make any sense when I'm texting. Um, so I that's what I've been doing a lot lately is just voice noting, my friends.

Jaspre Guest:

I call everyone I call

Brittany Snow:

all everyone It's so annoying. Just kidding. I just I'm like, oh God.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

You're like, do I answer or do I just push to voicemail?

Jaspre Guest:

Now Now I know why we've been spoken in three days. I mean, I just feel like texts can be taken the wrong way. And then I also just feel like the effort by the time I do this, we can just like talk for 30 seconds and it's done, you know? And the tone this and I used to be like, a really shy person that getting on the phone would cause like massive anxiety. And so it's so funny to me that I'm like, I'll just call her like I all my clients are like you're calling me again like yes, we need to talk about this. It's better than an email that sits in your box that you don't look at so go to is the old school phone.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Oh my gosh. I love it and describe yourself maybe in one or hybrid What kind of friend You are? For example, I'm a cactus friend. You don't need to talk to me a lot. You know, I don't. I don't need a lot of watering. But are you needy? Are you blunt?

Jaspre Guest:

Wow, I love that analogy.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Oh my gosh, thanks.

Brittany Snow:

I think you guys are going somewhere else that I was like, so you're like, yeah, like, you can't like, hug,

Gabrielle Ruiz:

you know, don't touch me, don't touch to me.

Brittany Snow:

I've been I've been called like a well like a like a marshmallow. I one or like a powdered donut one time. I'm probably powdered donut because like, She's like, I'm always a good time. It's just like, oh, like too many of this problem. But I'm always a good time.

Pallavi Sastry:

I did not know where you are going with that one.

Jaspre Guest:

Um, I would say I am similar. I'm a fixer. Inherently. And and then like, like, I want to fix and heal, you know, fixing and heal people. Historically, I would say,

Brittany Snow:

Hmm, you are a fixer.

Jaspre Guest:

But I wish I could say powdered donut. I was like, What is that? Like? You know, that sounds so much better than

Brittany Snow:

I didn't know what it meant either at the time,

Jaspre Guest:

I know. very weak, and I get it. So yes.

Pallavi Sastry:

And then what would you like to do better as a friend,

Brittany Snow:

I've been really consciously, especially this year during quarantine, trying to be a more active listener with my friends. Like to not to call them and to talk to them. And when we do talk, to not have any sort of like, agenda in terms of like, we need to have fun, or we need to like talk about you know, this thing more than or get something accomplished. It's really just me listening to what's going on with them and not talking about myself at all. And it's I mean, I know that sounds like weird because why would I be talking about myself with my friends but but it's it's kind of amazing. Sometimes when you really, when you really think about it, how much conversations go back and forth and how much you're like, finishing each other sentences and you're talking and so much of this year has been me just actually listening, which is nice.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

I love that

Pallavi Sastry:

Jaspre?

Jaspre Guest:

I was gonna say the same thing. I think I always try to improve listening because so much is said that sometimes you miss you know, especially if you're not in front of them. So I always think that you can always be a better friend. And that's a great question too.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

And finally, ladies, What are friends for?

Brittany Snow:

Love Um Uconditional love. See, baby powder donut? No, really, I find especially now during quarantine, it really does make me feel good to know that I have I have like a great group of girlfriends that have been my friends forever. And, and there is such an unconditional love there. Whether we talk every day or not, whether they're going through a hard time or I am during quarantine, just knowing that I can pick up the phone and it's always going to be there. And that either one of us if we make a mistake, it's fixable, because that friendship means more than little mess ups. That's the type of unconditional love i love about friends.

Jaspre Guest:

I think for me it's about it feels like a foundation it feels super grounding you know and i think you know you can't have a house without a strong foundation and foundation can be family it can be friends it can be that kind of your dogs but I think everyone needs that strong foundation otherwise you know you don't really you're going to crumble you know, and I think friends can really be there to help remind you of yourself and your strengths. And that to me feels always just very strong and grounding.

Pallavi Sastry:

Great answers ladies. Thanks for coming on the show. And thank you to everyone for rating and reviewing this episode. Please give us some love some gratitude. We'd really appreciate it we're so thankful that Brittany snow Jaspre guests were our final guest friends on this season of what are friends for and we're so grateful So Happy Holidays to you ladies and everyone here listening

Brittany Snow:

Thank you

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Bye. I really want a powdered donut now. We asked Brittany and Jaspre like and their team like what do you want to talk about anything friendship there were like a our friendship with our dogs and we were like done. We wanted to bring our pups on since we are on zoom videotaping this for our Patreon. Let's go get the

Pallavi Sastry:

same same same.

Brittany Snow:

Oh my gosh, this is the best thing I've ever seen.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

With respect to episode length guidelines, WAFF podcasts elected to edit this final moment out of our weekly podcast and listening experience and make it available exclusively on our subscription channel to catch this unedited extended bonus video with guest friends Brittany snow and Jaspre guest you can subscribe and watch [email protected] forward slash WAFF podcast. See you there 1234

Pallavi Sastry:

This episode was produced by Team access productions and fastenal Inc. Our supervising producer is Philip Pisanchyn.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Our consulting producers are Kathleen CHO and Megan Densmore. Our production assistants are Eva Ratcliffe and Bailey Disler.

Pallavi Sastry:

Our podcast artwork is created by Aishwarya Schucase. Original Music is by Joey Sherman and our digital content director is Susie Cabello.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Special thanks to Alex you don't Samantha Wiener and Hari sabi tala.

Pallavi Sastry:

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Pallavi Sastry:

we truly appreciate you all checking in with us online. But you know that friend that you've been like, I really haven't checked in with them in a while. Go do that.

Gabrielle Ruiz:

Yeah. Go do that. Now.