What Are Friends For

Stuart Brazell: Friendship During New Motherhood

February 23, 2021 Gabrielle Ruiz & Pallavi Sastry Season 3 Episode 4
What Are Friends For
Stuart Brazell: Friendship During New Motherhood
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What Are Friends For
Stuart Brazell: Friendship During New Motherhood
Feb 23, 2021 Season 3 Episode 4
Gabrielle Ruiz & Pallavi Sastry

Gabrielle and Pallavi are joined by wife, boy mom, and content creator Stuart Brazell! They talk about how hard it is to maintain friendships while being a new mom, and how the wonders of portable breast pumps have helped with that struggle! You can find the sassy and badass mom Stuart Brazell on every social media platform at @stuartbrazell.

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Gabrielle and Pallavi are joined by wife, boy mom, and content creator Stuart Brazell! They talk about how hard it is to maintain friendships while being a new mom, and how the wonders of portable breast pumps have helped with that struggle! You can find the sassy and badass mom Stuart Brazell on every social media platform at @stuartbrazell.

Get free delivery on your first grocery order of $35 or more at instacart.oloiyb.net/WAFF

Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/waffpodcast) or follow us everywhere @waffpodcast

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Gabrielle Ruiz 0:

13 No really What are friends for Welcome back everyone to WAFF podcast. I'm Gabrielle Ruiz

Pallavi Sastry 0:

19 and I'm Gabrielle's best friend Pallavi Sastry, we are off and running in season three.

Gabrielle Ruiz 0:

27 So exciting

Pallavi Sastry 0:

28 It is! The date that we are recording this and we usually double up or triple up depending on the day. But the date today and I said it in the previous recording, but I love it. It's 1 21 21. So it's one two one two one.

Gabrielle Ruiz 0:

43 Cute, super cute and I'm pregnant. I can say I'm public now, this is the season where I get to actually talk about like maternity things instead of just being like, you know, resting my chin on my hand and be like that sounds great, Pallavi! You know, so I'm really excited about our guest today. Because all of the reasons why I am obsessed with her and all of her Instagrams and all of the things I'm sure it's also a tik tok thing we're going to ask her because I don't understand Tik Tok. But other than that we're so grateful that you all are here listening to this episode, your rates, your rates,

Pallavi Sastry 1:

18 your rates, and your reviews,

Gabrielle Ruiz 1:

20 your rates, and your stars and all of those things really make a difference for the podcast land, but we're a show you know, we're a vodcast, we have a Patreon subscription, you can watch this episode. You can watch us I mean, all the outfits today are slay.com. But don't go to slay.com go to patreon/waffpodcast and so we're excited that a lot of things are happening this season. We've got a lot of great guests and let's get going.

Pallavi Sastry 1:

47 Alright, so on the show today is somebody we kind of Instagram stopped and then I reached out and said, You know what, we should just have her on the show. And so she's a wife. She's a boy mom. She's a TV and digital host a content creator, producer, entertainment reporter and blogger please welcome to the program Mrs. Stuart Brazell

Stuart Brazell 2:

08 Hi! all the things

Gabrielle Ruiz 2:

10 Hi. all of them slay looks, Stuart

Stuart Brazell 2:

15 I'm trying This is the one day of the month where I put on my sequins and a little mascara and hang out with you girls.

Gabrielle Ruiz 2:

23 And do you look yourself in the mirror like There you are.

Stuart Brazell 2:

27 It is funny because you know in quarantine my toddler used to see me glam all the time I'm coming to go home from work and now I'm like always in let's be honest, like athleisure and yoga pants and so when I put on makeup he always looks at me and he's like Mama's looking good.

Gabrielle Ruiz 2:

51 My grandmother whenever I would put on lipstick my grandmother would always say mijita there you are. She would say that to me. God bless her and that red lipstick thing

Pallavi Sastry 2:

59 things right like are things that we feel like make us our look like our our thing for our look like for me, it's my eyebrows.

Gabrielle Ruiz 3:

07 Eyebrows are a big difference. Yeah, it makes me actually like, remember that I have hope we are going to dive into our first segment

Singing 3:

14 InstaFriends or Reality

Pallavi Sastry 3:

19 the segment is where we go into our guests Instagram, we choose a post that we want to know the whole story for. And the reason we do that is because as friends, we tend to observe each other a lot because we have access to things like social media and like everything is so digital. And also right now we're all socially distanced. So it's really easy to be passive about your relationships, but we're trying to use the Instagram, the Instagram tool as as a means to communication. So like, we watch something, we look at a post and we're like, hey, what really happened there? You know, how you doing? You know, that sort of thing. And I think this is like a really cool moment because, you know, for me whenever I was pregnant, my daughter is 18 months old. So you know, you're a couple years ahead of me with your first child but you were one of the people that our mutual connection. Dr. Elliott Merlyn recommended as someone to follow and like you were like my Insta friend during my pregnancy.

Stuart Brazell 4:

17 I love that Dr. Berlin is so great. Now have you done his podcast?

Pallavi Sastry 4:

21 I have done his podcast and i think i think i was either right before you were right after you I can't remember Yeah, anyway,

Stuart Brazell 4:

28 I was listening into who was recording after me she's talking about her home birth and I was like that is a braver woman than I

Gabrielle Ruiz 4:

34 might have been Pallavi

Pallavi Sastry 4:

36 it was me probably

Stuart Brazell 4:

37 no no it wasn't you though it was an actress from a so put so you did a home birth. Bless you. I'm too scared.

Pallavi Sastry 4:

44 Yeah, but but I was telling you earlier the post that we chose was the one that you did.

Gabrielle Ruiz 4:

51 Yes. From January 6. Yeah, January 16. Multitasking mama hashtag Don't be suspicious.

Pallavi Sastry 4:

59 Hahahaa that's my video, yeah So I chose that one because and I was telling you earlier I am in awe of people who have really committed to the breastfeeding journey. And I think like, what if I had known that like, portable breast pumps for a thing before, like I was in, I knew about breast pumps, obviously. And I had one and I definitely was also an over producer, like you said, yeah, if I had known that having the portable ones would have changed my life, I think I would have been less upset.

Stuart Brazell 5:

29 It's such a game changer, because I remember like, you're like pumping and you're plugged into a wall and you're held captive. And it's like, so sad. And I was in. I was at New York Fashion Week 2019. I'm at New York Fashion Week. And I had to like find a bathroom in the middle of a day in the middle of fashion shows and plug in my pump and some dirty bathroom. And I was like, this is a low like, this is this is not living my best life. And so I knew that like when I found that I was pregnant again. I was like, Okay, this, there's got to be something better. So the wearable breast pumps are amazing. You feel like you're Dolly Parton. But they definitely like you move like you can do other stuff. You're not changing. I was like, it was the only time this year that I've left my house to go somewhere that wasn't to the doctor and it was like my first haircut of the year. And I remember like got my haircut. And I was trying to get back home because I was like trying to get back before my baby wakes up. He's like screaming with my boobs are so full and they were like aching and I just had mastitus, which is terrible. I was like, I'm just gonna put these in and I'm tik tok has gotten me through 2020. And I was like, You know what, I am going to remember this moment. And I found that audio and I just loved it. And the people next to me were like, what is this woman doing? Because you know, you you like slip them in and then you got to get them going. You got to make sure they suction so I'm like, leaning over like dipping my breast in. like hot mess Central. But I was like, No, I'm gonna own this moment because I just got my first haircut of 2020 like this really good. I got a haircut. This is a big deal.

Pallavi Sastry 7:

12 Yeah, I mean, I will say like the thing about pumping and because I had to, like really maneuver way around my way around it and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this is like, you know, during this, these early stages of motherhood, for me, people would just come and sit with me in the in the room while I was pumping because that was the only like, my time that I had. And so like, during this time of socially, being socially distant, like, you know, how are you connecting with your people? Like how are they able to? How are they supporting you and your postpartum time?

Stuart Brazell 7:

47 Oh that is so hard. It's so hard because all like my parents or my dad's been having a really hard time so I don't think my mom could have come out anyways. But you know, my parents are in South Carolina and then my husband's family is all on the east coast. And so we have like friends, but no one can really come because of you know, COVID so you're just kind of doing your thing and connecting with moms on tik tok and Instagram has really been my support system because the thing I like about tik tok is you could just keep it so real like you can just be unapologetically gross, honest, like all of the things that you know Instagram people are getting to be more real but it's still this thing where the aesthetic and oh my god, but my colors are rose gold, bronze and marble and this photo has purple in it. It's just still a little ridiculous, I think. Right? Right. And so the moms on tik tok like, it's like, oh, look, my my hair is at a messy bun. I have toothpaste on my face. I'm don't have got spit up all over me. And I'm in like three old sweatpants. Hey, I think it's been really helpful because you don't get any face time with people. And also sometimes it's like, you just want to laugh. And you can just get a quick like, watch an eight second video that just speaks so much to you. And you'd like to do a spit take because it's so exactly what you're in at that moment. And it's like a different thing where you're so tired, that you don't even have time to tell people how tired you are. So to just get to watch someone's funny Tik Tok video that's only five seconds long and laugh just really hits the spot right now.

Gabrielle Ruiz 9:

36 It's like a shot. Yeah. Like,

Stuart Brazell 9:

38 this is what I have time for. This is funny. And then the comments are great. And you slide into DMS and stuff and I'll do like some live sometime but to be honest, I'm so tired doing live takes a lot of energy and you're like It does lotta set up. Oh, yeah. Set up.

Gabrielle Ruiz 9:

54 Gotta check your background. You know,

Stuart Brazell 9:

55 it's so it's just gonna be a lot. It gets to be a lot. I remember Like right when quarantine happened. It's like everyone in their mom was like, do you want to do an Instagram Live? Do you want to do an Instagram Live? I was like No.

Gabrielle Ruiz 10:

07 Yeah, like, No they were they were completely monopolizing the whole, like, buttons on top there was like,

Stuart Brazell 10:

14 anything interesting, the quality is crappy just like, hey, it's like, No, do a live if you have something to say like don't just do a live to hang out, I don't have that I don't have the time I don't have the attention span. And it's also been kind of nice to have it. I mean, I've always worked in jobs that were demanding in the sense like with celebrity interviews, I'm prepping and prepping and then you're filming and then you realize, oh my god, this actor is not charismatic. He if he's not actually acting, he's really effing boring. Oh my God, then you have to work so much harder. I mean, you guys know when you interview people it's like some people are really flat. And your your energy isn't like a million trying to make this person interesting. And then you leave and you're just like, drained.

Gabrielle Ruiz 10:

55 No 100%

Stuart Brazell 10:

56 my god and so I feel like I've been trying to use quarantines to almost protect my energy some and like don't you don't have to give so much away and and say no, it's okay to say no. If someone asked you to do something you don't want to do it. Like I was always such a people pleaser like growing up in the south and going to manners classes and like all of that you feel like you're offending someone if you say no, no, the power of no is so powerful. Say No, it's okay. It totally is.

Pallavi Sastry 11:

25 Yeah, I mean, we both grew up in Texas so we understand that people pleaser be a nice person thing for sure. It doesn't serve you all the time. Yeah.

Gabrielle Ruiz 11:

34 Yeah, for sure. can be totally draining.

Pallavi Sastry 11:

36 Yeah. Like what you were talking about being a little more unapologetic on your media is a way of saying no, as well as like, No, I'm not going to be polished just because that's what is expected or anything like that. Yeah, sure. And I think that's what makes people like you relatable on those platforms in which is because like, you know, I don't I'm not necessarily like hooked on my social media, like I you know, we're all in the same industry, but like, it's really hit or miss, like, what, how social media is going to serve you for your, for your career. So if it's not for work, sometimes I tend to be kind of passive about it. But like, during, when you're in a first like, you know, for first time moms or anything like that, it's like, you know, I think the the more real that we are or the more real things that we find that actually is the most helpful and healing

Stuart Brazell 12:

30 I remember I watched some video and it was like this mom, and she was like, I wake up at six o'clock before my baby. And she did like her hair and her makeup. She's like getting just for the day. This really makes me feel like a person. I was like, if I have a choice, I'm going to sleep another hour and wake up when the baby screaming for me to come get them like yeah, and then it was like her whole aesthetic and our house was perfect. And it's just not real. And I think that's definitely been a big pivot this year in 2020 especially as people don't want to see perfect they want to see real

Pallavi Sastry 13:

00 right. Yeah, you know, I I used to think that I and I mean this and accomplished as in the most complimentary way possible. I used to think that I had to look like you in order to be showing things like my postpartum body or like my body you know what I mean? Like you know, but like you know, you you are actually posting through day one of postpartum all the way through and you're it seems like you're not putting expectations on yourself and it's making that makes it more safe right the yesterday when it was the inauguration so it was such a lovely day and I it was the first time I had put a video. Yeah, it was the first time I had put a video of myself in my underwear wearing a shirt that says VP looks like me so I was like you know what, I'm just what I'm feeling today and it was like literally I've done that

Gabrielle Ruiz 13:

51 How did it feel Pallavi

Pallavi Sastry 13:

52 I feel pretty good. I mean, why why do I feel like I can't do this and who's telling me that I can't do this you know I think this is my own brain

Stuart Brazell 14:

02 and we also get so worried about the likes and the this and it's like I have a friend who she'll post and if it doesn't get a certain amount of likes within the first hour she deletes it and I'm

Gabrielle Ruiz 14:

13 oh no

Stuart Brazell 14:

14 What kind of life is that like

Gabrielle Ruiz 14:

16 oh,

Stuart Brazell 14:

17 I just don't care anymore and maybe it is because I'm so tired but if I like it that's enough

Gabrielle Ruiz 14:

25 well I think that's what is what Pallavi found in you to feel related to you in that way like you that's what's relatable is that you are you do with your authenticity of feeling enough and posting for me that wasn't a mom when I saw when I met your Instagram met you on Instagram first instead of now. It's just so authentic and so we I just love that Pallavi found you as an Insta friend first before you

Stuart Brazell 14:

51 I know that so it's not like the bad. That's the best and then it is funny like if you've been there's a couple people that We followed each other for a while, and then you meet in real life like four years later. And you're hey like now what?

Pallavi Sastry 15:

13 I know, it's like we already knew things about each other, even though we didn't. Let me ask you, let me ask you a question about something. And again, like, I tend to ask the kind of controversial questions I think on the show.

Gabrielle Ruiz 15:

27 No, you don't know you don't. They're good questions. They're good questions, right? I just word them controversially.

Pallavi Sastry 15:

36 Well, okay, so I was the first of my friends to have a baby. And I don't know, where you fall in your, like, immediate group of friends in that in that regard. But I actually found myself, not like avoiding mom groups, quote, you know, like, I wasn't really looking to try and find mom groups, because to me, I think maybe psychologically, it was telling me, oh, that means that I need to go elsewhere or look somewhere else because I'm not getting the support. I need where I am.

Stuart Brazell 16:

10 Yeah,

Pallavi Sastry 16:

11 but, and I and I stuck to that I stuck to my guns. I'm not trying to find a mom group. And Gabrielle and I've been friends for 15 years. And I was the one having a baby. But I still wanted her to be the one to be around or like Kat Hennessy to be around. Like, you know, she's one of our best friends. And

Stuart Brazell 16:

27 I love Kat. Oh my gosh, she's the best.

Pallavi Sastry 16:

30 Yeah. And so always

Gabrielle Ruiz 16:

31 like every episode, we shout her out, she for sure. Like, we're just always talking about cat.

Pallavi Sastry 16:

36 But I'm curious to know your thoughts on that? Because like, for me, I don't know if I would have if i don't know i'm i'm pretty happy that I didn't go find a mom group.

Stuart Brazell 16:

47 So I tried. It was funny this a colleague of mine was like, you know, you should really join this like mommy and me group. It's great. Because the teachers wonderful. They'll help you with things like, okay, you know, around three months, the baby might be fussy. Because of this, I'll kind of help you with the baby and stuff. And I paid for the 12 weeks, I went to the first two. And I was like, This is terrible. I would never be friends with these women in real life. They're all annoying as fuck. Like, I can't stand to be in a room of these women. One more minute. Like they're not interesting. They're complaining all the time. I was like, This is awful.

Gabrielle Ruiz 17:

28 Oh my God, that sounds like me

Stuart Brazell 17:

30 And they even like emails me because I actually I ended up like going on a trip and I was taking this is with my first son, Asher. And I was taking him home to South Carolina to meet my parents. So I was like, you know, I'm gonna be gone next week because we're on a trip, but I was like that I like ghosted the class. Oh, yeah. He told me they're like, hey, do you want to roll in another session because she never came back. I was like, No, boom, all that cuz it was just blown away. Just because you have a baby within the same three weeks span of time as someone does not mean you have anything in common with them or like anything to talk to them about. And I don't want to talk to people just about baby stuff all the time. Because I'm really on the baby stuff. I want to talk about fun stuff. So I ended up just kind of like most of my friends are just like, so single, like, no boyfriends even which has been really funny. I've been I've some of them. Like in quarantine. I'm like, you know, they're obviously it's been really hard and they want to vent. I'm like, Girl, I love it. I just don't have time for this. Like, I love you. I don't think you should go on a date with this guy at a bar and wear a mask and lay I think it's all weird. Yeah, you gotta wait it out. Like I hope you I don't know how to help you. That's why I say I don't think you should go into social existence. Like I think you should just, this is all I don't know what to say. And I'm honestly I was like, I love you. I just don't have the bandwidth to even, like, engage in this conversation. I have a couple friends that I just like naturally met that have kids around the same age and I have a neighbor but because of COVID we never see each other and then randomly. My neighbor across the street has a daughter that's like three months older than my oldest and so we would kind of see each other and you just kind of like I'm about like live your life. And you'll make friends with people I'm so with you like the forced mom groups. I just ain't nobody got time for that. No, yeah,

Pallavi Sastry 19:

37 yeah, I just couldn't do it. I felt like I was gonna be like, miss. I don't know. I didn't want to miss my friends in that way just because I needed mom friends and like I didn't like the idea of that.

Stuart Brazell 19:

50 And like some of my girlfriends are so good. They're like they love coming over and they let see I was someone that I don't really like kids. With other people's kids, right? So my friends are like, Oh, I wanna hang out with Asher like you do. They're like, He's so funny. I was like, I don't like kids. But if you like my kids, sure, but also like,

Gabrielle Ruiz 20:

10 I'm here. Do you want I mean, I can feed you alcohol, he can't I'm fun, too.

Pallavi Sastry 20:

18 I actually, I totally agree with you. And it's funny. I always ask my friends to come and see me. I don't ask them to come and see my kid.

Stuart Brazell 20:

26 Yeah, no, it's like, it's funny. But you do. You find your path, you find your people like I did get to meet some cool women. And then you end up finding that a lot of people you already knew or moms just because you weren't a mom yet it never really, you had no idea. And then you're like, Oh, I get it. And then I remember I worked a job with this woman. And she was like three kids. And she was such an incredible producer. And I remember I Coltrane. I just like, I just wanted to thank you, because you were so amazing to work with. And now that I have one child, the fact that you did all of that and have three like I'm in awe, like even such appreciation for working moms. It's like nuts, like how are the working mom, it's just like, bow down.

Gabrielle Ruiz 21:

13 Stay tuned for my mom group story. Because I'm not I don't have one yet. But I have to say, peanut the app has gotten me a group of pregnant women around the same time as me that I am super anti anti girlfriend like, I am a friend skeptic recovered through and through. And you know, there's a lot of the reason of this podcast is because I learned how to get over myself and reach out to people and support people without all my anxieties. And so I did reach I did check out peanut and I was very weary because the last time I got together with a group of friends, for a group of women through like reading a book together, something was like this Bible study in New York City, out of a huge church. And it was the most depressing, needy, off topic, session. And I like actually read the fucking book, and wanted to talk about this, this parable in Psalms, and nobody talked about it. And it was just like, and I did the same thing as he used to, I was like, I'm out. Gotta go, and they're like, Do you want to come back to like, new and

Stuart Brazell 22:

19 I'm going to the bathroom.

Gabrielle Ruiz 22:

24 And like, I was like, actually, and I don't, you know, book reading is not like my top three things of hobbies. So like, I was actually excited to like, meet people with something that I love some in common, which was, you know, God, and could not latch on to any sort of girl group and that way. cheerleading was nasty in high school, like, you know, it's just like the girl group thing for me. So I was very weary about peanut. And there are some needy groups there. But there has been a wonderful, I found a wonderful group of women. Where this one woman has her name is Judy. And she has the same due date as me and she's a prenatal yoga instructor. She's hoping that she's opened up a yoga like class from 10 of us in Los Angeles. And it's been nice to talk about, like, what are you doing? How are what is your family visiting with COVID and blah, blah, blah, especially in this? You know, there's a lot of maybe women friends that I have that didn't have a baby in a pandemic. So it's such a new conversation for anyone that is a mother, or is going to be a mother. So I have to say it's kinda working out Wish me luck.

Stuart Brazell 23:

30 Like, I'm so glad because especially the pregnancy because you do have more time to just kind of sit and think

Gabrielle Ruiz 23:

39 it's so true.

Stuart Brazell 23:

41 I have other people be like, do your ribs hurt when you do this? Or does it burn when you do this? And then someone else says, Okay, good. Oh,

Gabrielle Ruiz 23:

48 no, there was a huge question. Like, am I the only one that can't wipe well back there anymore? And we're all like, girl, you're not alone.

Stuart Brazell 23:

55 You're just blind. Trying to live just hang out?

Gabrielle Ruiz 23:

58 Yeah, shower times a day. Everyone again, thank you for coming to WAFF podcast. The best. No, but you're so good at Tik Tok. Listen, we are terrible at it. So I'm just

Stuart Brazell 24:

11 It's so fun. Like I never, you know, I downloaded it way back when it was musical.ly. And then I was like, Oh, I just don't have time because I was like working full time. Yeah, and tk tok. It's like a lot harder to make money. And so in a lot of ways, because I am because I'm doing it for fun and not to make money. Whoa, genius. I'm having a lot of fun.

Gabrielle Ruiz 24:

36 Look at that. Okay, good. Follow WAFF podcast Tik Tok wish us luck.

Stuart Brazell 24:

43 Now. Like funny comedic videos together to like, just grab some funny audio, you shoot yourselves cut it together. I mean, it's really easy to do, and you could just by batch shoot. So if I say okay, I'm gonna actually look like a person one day of the week. You can shoot like, five, six videos, just batch shoot. Done.

Pallavi Sastry 25:

05 Wow. I mean, we talk like every day. So I know there's content in there. And only because we have a show together, maybe I bet you know, I don't know what we talk this much if we didn't have a share together. No.

Gabrielle Ruiz 25:

23 No, but I'm a cactus friend like you don't need to talk to me every day. You don't need I

Stuart Brazell 25:

28 am. I feel the same way. It's like you could I, my best friend from college will take like two years off and then we'll talk I was like, Oh, no time has passed. It's like it's great.

Gabrielle Ruiz 25:

38 Right? But then is it like three hours sometimes like when? My college roommate Kim, she when she if she calls me if it's always solid? And I'm like, I can't pick up right now because I need three hours.

Stuart Brazell 25:

49 Total. Yeah, then you're like, I want to get into this. Let's set a date.

Gabrielle Ruiz 25:

55 Let's set a date. Yeah, and you're like, let's set a date and ends up being that week. And it's just so wonderful. Kim, I gotta call you I gotta call you I hope she's listening.

Pallavi Sastry 26:

02 I did. somebody tried to call me a couple days ago, but I actually didn't want to talk to them. So I was just like, no. I was saying no, Stuart Aren't you proud of me?

Stuart Brazell 26:

12 And that wasn't a good way to spend your energy and you're in a better mood for it. Because you know, sometimes, you know, like, I have certain people that as I've gotten older and especially once I became a mom, like I just had to cut my friend list like you got to just trim it, trim it trim it because if you're always giving and it's a one sided like you just don't have that you don't have the bandwidth

Gabrielle Ruiz 26:

36 just customize your algorithm in life. Listen to that friend algorithm. Genius way to put it

Stuart Brazell 26:

41 customize your own algorithm for life. Yeah, friendships.

Gabrielle Ruiz 26:

49 No really, Pallavi? I love diving deep into platonic love with you it has really gotten me through this pandemic.

Pallavi Sastry 26:

55 Same here Gabrielle and you know, we are happily working so hard to produce this slay content for all of our listeners.

Gabrielle Ruiz 27:

02 Yeah, that's why I'm so glad we joined Patreon.

Pallavi Sastry 27:

05 Hey, Patreon and Patreon is the opportunity for our listeners to get exclusive perks from us all while supporting our podcast streams.

Gabrielle Ruiz 27:

14 What kind of perks Pallavi?

Pallavi Sastry 27:

15 Let me tell you about them perks. Okay, our Patreon page has tiers to choose from so you can pick the wolf perks that speak to you, for example, just for joining as a wall friend, patrons automatically get access to the vodcast. Gabrielle tell them what a vodcast is,

Gabrielle Ruiz 27:

30 is the video version of our podcast where you can see us and our guests friends interviewed on camera and wait for it. It's only $2 a month.

Pallavi Sastry 27:

39 Yes, it gets better. We are also offering the option to join us for a monthly WAFF live show and q&a.

Stuart Brazell 27:

46 Oh my God, that's amazing. So

Gabrielle Ruiz 27:

47 they can ask us about anything.

Pallavi Sastry 27:

48 Not only can they ask us anything, there's even a few tiers where they could come on and win a chance to meet our guests friends to ask them anything. Slay, slay,

Gabrielle Ruiz 27:

57 slay, you know, I think what we're most proud of is that 10% of all proceeds from our Patreon page, go to charity. So not only are we focusing on great content for you, we also get the opportunity to give back.

Pallavi Sastry 28:

08 So you're saying that all you got to do to get these perks is join @patreon.com/waffpodcast. That's W A F F podcast. And that directly helps us keep making the show.

Stuart Brazell 28:

18 That's exactly what I'm saying. Because that's what friends are for.

Gabrielle Ruiz 28:

22 Now back to WAFF. Well, let's go into our final segment.

Singing 28:

29 Lightning WAFF

Gabrielle Ruiz 28:

32 Lightning waff It's a super quick and fun answer q&a, like 20 questions, but friendship style. We've kind of done we kind of like dug in a little bit like cactus friend and things. So you're already prepared. Stuart, you are warmed up. Yeah. And so thank you so much for coming on WAFF. We're just like

Stuart Brazell 28:

51 it just a quick,

Gabrielle Ruiz 28:

52 quick and easy friend talking but also like good diving into, like platonic love, which we love. So first question of lightning WAFF is do you have none? one or multiple best friends?

Stuart Brazell 29:

06 Multiple

Gabrielle Ruiz 29:

06 How do you keep in touch

Stuart Brazell 29:

08 everything from texting, phone calls, FaceTime, and a good old Instagram direct message. And now I'm making I'm tagging them and tik tok videos and they're mad at me about it. I love tagging them. You have to watch this too. Like what do I do? I'm like, just click the link.

Pallavi Sastry 29:

23 We'll wait for that tag from you so we can be mad at you.

Stuart Brazell 29:

31 Obsessed with drag queens and so it was like a drag queen makeup where she's like God, you know me so well.

Gabrielle Ruiz 29:

37 You're like you're welcome. I told you. What kind of friend are you in one word or hyphenate? Are you for instance like a problem solver listener. We kind of dove into cactus.

Stuart Brazell 29:

49 Oh, yeah, cactus, but also I'm like your hype girl. And I think that's why I get contacted too much. Like I need to hype you up.

Gabrielle Ruiz 30:

01 Everybody calls do I like, ghosts? Do I need some hype up? And then what do you want to do better as a friend?

Stuart Brazell 30:

09 Oh better as a friend. I want to be more patient, because I'm gonna tell it like this person. And sometimes it's kind of like with my husband, right? He's a problem solver and I just want to listen to him and he's trying to solve it. I'm like, but I haven't even told you everything. So just be more patient and just listen without trying to solve the problem. And the problem is, I just don't have time right now. I got to the chase, but I'm also the person like when someone calls us like, could this be better done via text? Or is this a phone call system?

Pallavi Sastry 30:

48 Oh, man, we've covered so much ground but we have one our final iconic question, Stuart. And that is what our friends for.

Stuart Brazell 30:

59 Friends are for laughing the loudest like knee slapping laughs just that feeling where you know you can unapologetically Be yourself look like crap, jump in a car, drive to Vegas, stay up for 48 hours drive home and really never have to talk about it again. But you both know. You know.

Gabrielle Ruiz 31:

25 I do slay. So if any of our listener friends are not listening to you or not watching you yet on the socials, what's your favorite that you would like them to follow? And

Stuart Brazell 31:

33 oh, yeah, I mean, I'm pretty much just across the board. My name is Stuart Brazell. Tik Tok is my new obsession but Instagram and I are og's. And you know, we're still gonna dabble on Twitter. And I'll tell you this, Facebook just did a change. And something happened in the last like a month where I've doubled my Facebook followers. Don't tell me this. No. Yeah. And so I've been staying off of it because I feel like it's like grandma's posting on people's walls like standing wire, like leaving their phone numbers and stuff. But Facebook is gonna make a comeback, guys, so get ready.

Gabrielle Ruiz 32:

08 I am so sad to hear that

Stuart Brazell 32:

11 cross holiday. cross pollinate. Yeah, you're already crazy. We're creating the content of work is done.

Gabrielle Ruiz 32:

18 Yeah. Just copy and paste, paste and hire amazing production. Team.

Stuart Brazell 32:

27 I love It's so funny. It's like you do all the work they like and I have to make a thumbnail though.

Gabrielle Ruiz 32:

34 God doesn't fit the parameters.

Stuart Brazell 32:

41 As a good nobody's gonna click on your shit. So it's gotta be good.

Gabrielle Ruiz 32:

45 Thank you. Thank you. You're preaching. You're preaching to my choir heart right now my friend or anyone. Please go check out Stuart Brazell. She's the best. And thank you for listening to this episode for rating and reviewing our show. And go check out WAFFshop.com. We've got some cute slay hats and stickers and magnets. We got them merch and we also have amazing BFF content that you could send your friend your platonic love a little something all year round. So Stuart Brazell. Thank you for coming. Bye.

Stuart Brazell 33:

20 Bye guys. Thanks for having me

Pallavi Sastry 33:

25 1234 This episode was produced by Team access productions and fast nickel inc our supervising producer Philip Pisanchyn our consulting producers

Gabrielle Ruiz 33:

34 are Kathleen Cho and Rose hardwood.

Pallavi Sastry 33:

36 Head of production and marketing is Eva Ratcliffe digital content director is Suzy Cabello. Our production assistants are Daniella Heridiavega Solaire Olsen and Megann Billedo.

Gabrielle Ruiz 33:

47 Our podcast artwork is created by Ashaurya Shucase original music is by Joey Sherman, and special thanks to irresistible force publicity Bailey Disler and Hari savitala.

Pallavi Sastry 33:

57 Please remember to subscribe rate and review this podcast wherever you're listening to it now, this helps the show's visibility and helps us keep making it for you.

Gabrielle Ruiz 34:

05 And find us on all the socials Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and tik tok at WAFF podcast. That's W A F F podcast to find links to our exclusive vodcast live shows shop merch or even text us visit waffpodcast.com.

Pallavi Sastry 34:

18 We truly appreciate you all checking in with us online. But you know that friend that you've been like, Oh, I really haven't checked in with them in a while. Go do that.

Gabrielle Ruiz 34:

27 Yeah. Go do that. Now.

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